Awhile back I found this list of "Common Racist Attitudes and Behaviors (that indicate a wrong turn into white guilt, denial or defensiveness)." Being that I feel more motivated by positive directives rather than being told don't do this and don't do that, I decided to write a list of attitudes and behaviors that an anti-racist should embrace.
That being said, I think it is important to read the original list as well. There are a lot of particular phrases and arguments in there that it would do well to steer clear of. So after checking out that list, here's my list of things I feel one should do to be a better anti-racist. It's long and jumps about a bit and repeats itself slightly - but hopefully there are some nuggets of wisdom in there anyway. Most of these points could be applied to other forms of discrimination and prejudice as well.
Last disclaimer: I didn't know or come up with most of this stuff - I'm just spouting my reflections on the St. Cloud document I linked to above. The real credit goes to them for compiling that very eye-opening list of racist attitudes and behaviors. Here are my thoughts on how to take action on them:
1. Celebrate different appearances and cultures. There is so much richness in the world! There's no need to try and ignore it and make everyone the same. Same is boring!
2. Realize that racism may have played a role in your success and that of others in your family, community, etc. Realize that racism still exists and is still making it harder for people of color to succeed. The playing field is not level. Do what you can to be fair to each individual based on this realization. Fair is not equal. Fair is what's right based on the situation. (Maybe more later on this slogan that I stole from teaching!)
3. Confront your privilege, not people who are pointing it out or reacting to it. It might feel uncomfortable. That's not reverse racism. That's just your conscience. It's ok. It's good that you have one. Now, use that conscience and discomfort to sympathize with people of color and to get energized for acting against racism.
4. Take responsibility. Even if you were not directly responsible for a racist incident, racism as a whole is the fault of white people. (In the US, anyway. In other countries, things may be different, such as Asian countries where one dominant ethnic group is favored over others.) Trying to shift the blame is grossly unfair. Instead, accept the problem and tackle it head on.
5. Work with people of color, not for them. We can only achieve progress against racism through understanding, cooperation and unity. If you're so inclined, get to know people of color and work with them to fight racism. If you're not so inclined...well, it's going to be hard for you to fight racism if you don't actually know any people of color.
6. Listen. If people of color are hurt or offended by something you or others do, it's a sign you should change it and/or oppose it. Even if it was a joke. Why would you want to continue doing something that hurts others??
7. Examine your thoughts and behavior. Especially if you have been called out for doing or saying something racist. Racism is very insidious. I still catch myself making assumptions about people based on race. It could be something automatic you don't even think about, or a way of thinking or perceiving people that you don't even realize is racist. The first step to solving the problem is acknowledging it. To change my thoughts, I adopted the slogan "we're all people" to stop myself from judging others based on skin color (sexual orientation, income level, etc) and remind myself of everyone's basic worth as a human being.
8. Use your own experience to empathize, but not to divert attention. Internally, you can think about the times you faced oppression or hardship in order to create compassion for a person facing racism. Externally, talking about your experience will probably not help, just like if a friend came to you with a problem and you just blabbed about yourself instead of listening to him or her.
9. Educate yourself. There's no excuse for not knowing about the state of the world today. You have news at your fingertips, and if you read it, you will find that sadly, there is very much that is unjust going on in the world. (This is something I need to work on myself - I don't read the news nearly often enough.)
10. Stay focused. There are times when multiple forms of oppression need to be addressed at once, or when you may need to ally with people fighting other forms of discrimination (see #17). But if other forms of oppression are not relevant to the issue at hand, then you should stay focused on the problem of racism, and not bring up other topics.
11. Examine institutions critically. Racism is institutionalized. That's what makes it racism and not just prejudice. Society as a whole has ingrained patterns that discriminate against people of color, and institutions such as law enforcement, schools, media and business reflect these patterns. Question the messages that institutions send.
12. It's not who you know, it's what you do. Just having personal interactions with people of color isn't usually enough to make someone an anti-racist. You have to be willing to question your actions and beliefs, question the way our society works and take action to change things.
13. Do something! It can be scary to confront racism, but imagine how much worse it is for the person experiencing it. Saying sorry afterward is too late - do what you can to stop racism when/before it happens. Better yet, get involved in a larger effort to stop racism altogether.
14. Educate others. Instead of making excuses for your friend or relative who says or does racist things, communicate with that person about why what they're doing is offensive and hurtful. It might take several tries. It might take a lifetime. Nothing's going to change if you don't try.
15. Realize that racism is the default in US society. Everyone has it; it's transmitted to us by our parents, our schools and communities, the media, filling us with assumptions about people we've never met, assumptions that breed misunderstanding, fear, dislike, intolerance and hate, assumptions that are heavily skewed to give power to whites and deny it to people of color. And because everyone has it, it's everyone's problem. You can't avoid it. In order to change things, everyone has to acknowledge the problem and work together for a more just society.
16. Make yourself something to be proud of. You don't need to appropriate someone else's culture to show how enlightened you are. Doing so is actually just another form of oppression. Instead, make yourself and your culture something to be proud of, by showing compassion and understanding for others, refusing to oppress others and working to dismantle the societal patterns that do so. You have the power to give up your power. Don't run away from that decision by pretending to be something you're not!
17. Make anti-racism part of your portfolio. So you're a gay rights activist, or an activist for people with disabilities, or a feminist. That's great! Why not also be an anti-racist? Why stand for any kind of discrimination or oppression? We should take a stand against oppression whenever and wherever we see it - no one of these causes takes precedence over another, and there's no reason why if you stand for one, you can't stand for the others as well.
18. Address the overall problem. Racism is not just individual acts of prejudice, it's a pattern of such acts that forms an institution of oppression against people of color. Individual acts of prejudice are generally signs of that pattern acting itself out in your group, community, organization, etc. To solve the problem and stop further acts of prejudice, you need to address the underlying pattern - racism - and not just the individual acts. (This may take time, of course.)
19. Act naturally. There's no need to treat people of color (or anyone who's different from yourself) with kid gloves. Just be yourself, and be fair.
20. Do your own work. Take the initiative to learn about racism and how to fight it, rather than passively depending on people of color to just call you out when you accidentally act racist. You don't want to just stand by while oppression is going on! There are tons of resources out there to learn about racism (and I'll be posting more on it myself). This site is a good start. http://racism.org/
21. Be understanding toward other white people. You were once in their shoes as some "less knowledgeable" about racism. You may still have racist assumptions that pop up from time to time (I know I do!). Nobody's perfect, and sympathy and gentle correction go a lot further to changing minds than do anger and frustration.
22. Walk the walk. Wimps and poseurs, leave the hall! Just appearing anti-racist is not going to change anything - you need to take decisive action to make a difference.
23. Think big. As some previous points have explained, racism is an institution. Changing your own behavior goes a tiny way toward making change, but significant change can only be effected by tackling the systemic patterns of racism throughout society.
24. Broaden your circle. Make an extra effort to include people of color in your social activities. For me personally, this means making an effort to talk to people of color at metal concerts and goth/industrial clubs, so that they feel welcome. This is necessary because these events are generally dominated by white people, even though metal and goth/industrial culture are for everyone. In the face of this exclusiveness, an extra effort is needed to make people of color feel welcome. (This doesn't mean any special treatment. Just being friendly, so they don't feel left out in a sea of whiteness. "Hey, cool shirt, man," is probably the most I could manage with most people, but who knows, I might make some new friends :) )
25. Give generously. There's no need to keep a tally of how many anti-racist actions you've taken, or to expect anything in return, not even thanks. (See #25) Give freely of your time, energy and material resources without keeping score.
26. Speak up! Standing by while racism happens is colluding with racism. It can be scary to speak up, whether the person you need to speak up to is your friend or your boss, and there may even be times when it actually is better to remain silent for now, and take action later (as mentioned in the St. Cloud document itself). Remind yourself that nothing worth doing is easy, and screw your courage to the sticking place and take a stand.
27. Do it for yourself. Of course fighting racism helps people of color, but expecting their gratitude should not be your motivation for doing so. Find the motivation within yourself - to fight racism because it's the right thing to do, because it will make the world better for everybody - including yourself.
28. Perseverance! This issue's roots stretch back centuries. One challenged remark or blog post or campaign isn't going to solve it. Dig in for the long haul, because we may well be fighting this battle for the rest of our lives. But it's a good fight, and we can do it - through perseverance, against all opposition!
